Been a hot minute
Nov. 2nd, 2022 10:49 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
adeledawnIt's been a time since last I was here. Things started rolling and just didn't stop or even slow down some until now. It feels like I hit the ground running in June and just never slowed down until last week.
Just after we found out that my partner had MS, they also found a mass on his kidney. He's okay right now btw, but as we were informing family and friends, my Dad let us know he had terminal throat cancer. So in short succession, my partner had cancer surgery and my Dad went into hospice care.
I spent the summer and fall driving back and forth every week, 3 1/2 days caring for Dad and then driving four hours home to take care of my partner for 3 1/2 days. Then turning around and traveling back. I suppose I'm lucky all this was over the summer and I wasn't trying to traverse the state in the winter as the mountain passes would have been awful.
At the beginning of October, things started to decline rapidly with my Dad and I made the decision to stay with him until the end. Now I'm in his house alone, trying to settle his estate as best I can. I've at least one sister who's being a pain in the ass but the others have left me to take care of things, which is fine. I understand their choices and fully support them as our father was not... the best of men.
Tomorrow I go and get the death certificates and Dads ashes. It's a lot. While I love my partner, I cannot say I've had anything but some basic monetary support. We've not been doing all that great for some years now and while I am doing all I can to help and support them, I am unbelievably tired.
It's been a revolving door of people in and out, calling and stopping by most days and while I deeply appreciate every one of them I am people'd out. This introvert cannot handle constant people like it's a 9-5 job. I've been running all day and then my brain finally kersplodes and I fall into bed and am out like a light. Only to get up and do it all over again.
Add in the complication of Dad giving everyone and their brother a key and it's been something. I still need to get the locksmith here but I also need to add keys elsewhere. Maybe I can do that another time and just get the locks changed first. Will have to call the locksmith in the morning.
Anyways, it's been so much everything. *lies down on floor and naps*
Just after we found out that my partner had MS, they also found a mass on his kidney. He's okay right now btw, but as we were informing family and friends, my Dad let us know he had terminal throat cancer. So in short succession, my partner had cancer surgery and my Dad went into hospice care.
I spent the summer and fall driving back and forth every week, 3 1/2 days caring for Dad and then driving four hours home to take care of my partner for 3 1/2 days. Then turning around and traveling back. I suppose I'm lucky all this was over the summer and I wasn't trying to traverse the state in the winter as the mountain passes would have been awful.
At the beginning of October, things started to decline rapidly with my Dad and I made the decision to stay with him until the end. Now I'm in his house alone, trying to settle his estate as best I can. I've at least one sister who's being a pain in the ass but the others have left me to take care of things, which is fine. I understand their choices and fully support them as our father was not... the best of men.
Tomorrow I go and get the death certificates and Dads ashes. It's a lot. While I love my partner, I cannot say I've had anything but some basic monetary support. We've not been doing all that great for some years now and while I am doing all I can to help and support them, I am unbelievably tired.
It's been a revolving door of people in and out, calling and stopping by most days and while I deeply appreciate every one of them I am people'd out. This introvert cannot handle constant people like it's a 9-5 job. I've been running all day and then my brain finally kersplodes and I fall into bed and am out like a light. Only to get up and do it all over again.
Add in the complication of Dad giving everyone and their brother a key and it's been something. I still need to get the locksmith here but I also need to add keys elsewhere. Maybe I can do that another time and just get the locks changed first. Will have to call the locksmith in the morning.
Anyways, it's been so much everything. *lies down on floor and naps*